Detrans Awareness Day 2025 🦎

Our Reality, Our Truth

Mar 12, 2025

Today is Detrans Awareness Day—a day that many don’t even realize exists. But for those of us who have walked this path, it carries a weight we feel every single day. Detransition is not a trendy talking point, nor should it be a weapon for any political side. It is a lived experience—one often marked by loss, regret, resilience, and truth.

I share this from the perspective of a same-sex attracted man 🏳️‍🌈, someone who once believed that changing myself was the only way to find peace. And on this day, I also want to speak for my brothers and sisters in the LGB community who are unable to—those who have been silenced by shame, fear, or the weight of irreversible decisions. A community that has been severely affected and stigmatized by gender ideology.

The Path to Detransition 🚶‍♂️

Many of us were gender-nonconforming children who never quite fit in. Some of us were bullied 😔 for being too feminine or too masculine, while others faced rejection from our own same-sex attracted peers. We carried this pain into adulthood, often struggling with trauma, internalized homophobia, and a sense of disconnect from our bodies.

For too many, transition seemed like the answer—a way to finally feel at home in ourselves, to escape the shame. We were told we were “born in the wrong body” 🧬, that there was “science” to prove it, and that medical transition was not just valid, but necessary. And we believed it.

But what many of us truly needed was healing ❤️‍🩹. We needed to process our trauma. We needed to hear that being a gender-nonconforming boy or girl was okay. That we were valid the way we were. Instead, we were presented with the option to “fix” ourselves—affirmed without question and fast-tracked onto a medicalized path that would alter our bodies and minds forever.

When Being Gay Isn’t Enough 🏳️‍🌈

For LGB individuals, this has been especially harmful. Many of us now recognize that what was framed as gender dysphoria was actually internalized homophobia—a deep discomfort with ourselves because society told us we were wrong. And in many ways, it still does.

Why is the idea that a boy can be gentle, creative, and still be a boy 👦🎨 fading? The same goes for girls who reject traditional femininity. Is it because even in 2025, homophobia hasn’t disappeared and has simply evolved? Being a feminine gay boy or a masculine lesbian never needed fixing ❌, yet today, the message persists that there is an “option.”

The Failure of the 'Affirmation-Only' Model ⚠️

The speed at which many of us were pushed toward transition is alarming 🚨. Some received hormones 💉 and even surgery 🔪 after just a few therapy sessions—or none at all. The deeper struggles we faced—childhood trauma, internalized homophobia, or the need for self-acceptance—were ignored. Instead, the system handed us a single solution, one that left many with lasting physical and emotional scars.

This is not just an individual failure; it is a systemic one. And we are not alone.

Reclaiming Ourselves 🔄

Detransitioning is not just about stopping hormones or undoing surgeries—it’s about reclaiming ourselves. It’s about facing grief, anger, and the overwhelming what-ifs. It’s about mourning the years spent chasing an illusion while fighting to move forward.

The journey isn’t easy. The scars—both seen and unseen—remain. But we are learning to live with them. We are learning to own our truth.

Why I Speak Out 🎙️

I don’t share my story for sympathy. I share it because others need to know they’re not alone. I share it because the current system is harming people like me—LGB individuals, trauma survivors, anyone struggling could be vulnerable to the perfect storm and being given only one path forward. I share it because speaking up is the only way things will change.

To those questioning their transition:
⚡ It’s okay to stop.
⚡ It’s okay to ask why.
⚡ It’s okay to put yourself first, even when the world tells you not to.

To those who are listening:
🛑 We exist.
📖 Our stories matter.
💪 And we will not be erased.