You are beautiful just the way God made you. It’s terrible that you were made to feel unworthy and ashamed of it. I’m so happy you are learning to accept yourself, brother 💜 I’m lesbian and it took me a long time to accept myself, as well. I was just lucky in that the transgender madness hadn’t hit yet as I was struggling so deeply with my sexual orientation. If it had been on my radar, I would surely have followed that siren song, as well. Praying for your full healing and for you to be surrounded by love 🙏
Thank you so much for your encouragement. I know back in the 80's if we had the accessibility like today I'm sure I would have ended up worse off as a "trans kid." Unfortunately the ideology still got to me at age 39. That underlines the power of deeply rooted internalized shame and how it can leave a person vulnerable. It's also a call to action for the LGB community.
In the present, what is most important I believe is for the community to recognize that there is a problem. With that how about we start mainstreaming terms like Detrans, Detransition, Detransitioner and Detransitioned lives just like we would for the Trans community. Cant we be normalized as well?
I was moved by your story on Stephanie Winn's podcast. Part of what makes stories like yours so painful is that everyone thought they were helping. Even your mother's cruel comment could have come from her worry and fear for her child. The Good Intentions Paving Company seldom questions where the road's going cuz it knows its heart is in the right place. It sounds like you've come thru this trial with your sanity intact, and that you're on a good road now. Thank you for having the strength to speak.
Hi Levi, I am listening to you on You Must Be Some Kind Of Therapist podcast. I wanted to reach out because I grew up in Hiawatha, Kansas. Graduated in 1987. I am a straight white girl who experienced profound bullying just cause…actually I have never figured out why exactly. Good old fashioned chauvanism possibly. Anyway, since I was that bullied for just shits and giggles, I can’t imagine what you must have gone through. Makes me so sad for younger you😞. And I understand how those unresolved childhood traumas reverberate for us even unto today. I appreciate your bravery in speaking out on this incredibly important topic. If I were social media savvy, I would help spread your message. For now I will just pray you find strength and healing through sharing your truths about your life.
Hello, fellow Kansan! I actually grew up in the Council Grove area, so it’s always great to connect with someone from our home state. Thank you so much for your kind words and support—it truly means a lot. I’m really sorry to hear that you went through such intense bullying as well. It’s heartbreaking how cruelty, for no real reason at all, can leave such a lasting impact. You're absolutely right—those childhood wounds have a way of echoing through our lives if left untreated, Ive learned facing them head-on is where the real healing begins.
I deeply appreciate your encouragement, and your prayers mean more than you know. Just taking the time to reach out and share your thoughts is huge to me. Wishing you strength and healing as well. 💙
This is a really difficult area you´re touching on. I remember 30 odd years ago the effete 9 years old son of the sibling of one of my in laws and me thinking ´I bet that boy will turn out gay´ which he did and from what I gather has done well. I worked in mental health back in the day and recall a few boys whom I think now their presenting symptoms everything from acting out to anxiety to anorexia had a lot to do with being proto gay. Being unable, owing to their developmental, cognitive level, to put into words or reach an awareness of whats going on. You can´t ethically impose the notion of an adult sexual orientation upon a prepubescent child or even an adolescent for the simple reason that you´re dealing with human beings who are not yet fully formed.
How then, to help these young people? As another poster on here points out she was relentlesly bullied despite being straight. Gender non conforming children won´t necessarily grow up to be lesbian or gay. So how best do we support children and adolescents who get marked out by their peers, isolated from the ´in´ group?
Thankyou for writing. Really ejoyed reading your story it resonated in some ways and was ultimately uplifting. You pulled back from the brink well done.
In some ways it was easier growing up in the 80´s plenty of straight (and gay) flamboyant pop stars rocking eye make up, nail varnish expreSsive clothes and so on. It was kind of easier during adolescence than it was childhood...the whole new romantic / synth bands / goth subcultures had emerged by the time I turned 13 or 14. Thing was in those days no one ever suggested a boy wearing eyeliner had ´a gender that doesn´t align with the one assigned at birth´.
Thank you for your kind words, I do appreciate it.😊 How do we help our youth?
That is a great question. I believe it's a combination of several factors. First of all, recognizing the issue, then creating safe spaces that foster their talents, promoting acceptance, fostering empathy among peers, encouraging strong, healthy role models, and above all giving them more than the idea that they are or have a problem. When in fact it's the other way around.
In a lot of ways, the 80's was absolutely horrible for LGB people. But I do agree exactly with what you're saying from Boy George, to Prince, to Annie Lennox they were all gender non-conforming and yes we no one would suggest that their gender didn't align with what was assign at birth not because we didnt have the words as some of the woke might suggest but because we understood it as expression.
You are beautiful just the way God made you. It’s terrible that you were made to feel unworthy and ashamed of it. I’m so happy you are learning to accept yourself, brother 💜 I’m lesbian and it took me a long time to accept myself, as well. I was just lucky in that the transgender madness hadn’t hit yet as I was struggling so deeply with my sexual orientation. If it had been on my radar, I would surely have followed that siren song, as well. Praying for your full healing and for you to be surrounded by love 🙏
Thank you so much for your encouragement. I know back in the 80's if we had the accessibility like today I'm sure I would have ended up worse off as a "trans kid." Unfortunately the ideology still got to me at age 39. That underlines the power of deeply rooted internalized shame and how it can leave a person vulnerable. It's also a call to action for the LGB community.
What do you think the most important thing is we can do to help?
In the present, what is most important I believe is for the community to recognize that there is a problem. With that how about we start mainstreaming terms like Detrans, Detransition, Detransitioner and Detransitioned lives just like we would for the Trans community. Cant we be normalized as well?
I was moved by your story on Stephanie Winn's podcast. Part of what makes stories like yours so painful is that everyone thought they were helping. Even your mother's cruel comment could have come from her worry and fear for her child. The Good Intentions Paving Company seldom questions where the road's going cuz it knows its heart is in the right place. It sounds like you've come thru this trial with your sanity intact, and that you're on a good road now. Thank you for having the strength to speak.
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I appreciate it. 😊
Hi Levi, I am listening to you on You Must Be Some Kind Of Therapist podcast. I wanted to reach out because I grew up in Hiawatha, Kansas. Graduated in 1987. I am a straight white girl who experienced profound bullying just cause…actually I have never figured out why exactly. Good old fashioned chauvanism possibly. Anyway, since I was that bullied for just shits and giggles, I can’t imagine what you must have gone through. Makes me so sad for younger you😞. And I understand how those unresolved childhood traumas reverberate for us even unto today. I appreciate your bravery in speaking out on this incredibly important topic. If I were social media savvy, I would help spread your message. For now I will just pray you find strength and healing through sharing your truths about your life.
Hello, fellow Kansan! I actually grew up in the Council Grove area, so it’s always great to connect with someone from our home state. Thank you so much for your kind words and support—it truly means a lot. I’m really sorry to hear that you went through such intense bullying as well. It’s heartbreaking how cruelty, for no real reason at all, can leave such a lasting impact. You're absolutely right—those childhood wounds have a way of echoing through our lives if left untreated, Ive learned facing them head-on is where the real healing begins.
I deeply appreciate your encouragement, and your prayers mean more than you know. Just taking the time to reach out and share your thoughts is huge to me. Wishing you strength and healing as well. 💙
This is a really difficult area you´re touching on. I remember 30 odd years ago the effete 9 years old son of the sibling of one of my in laws and me thinking ´I bet that boy will turn out gay´ which he did and from what I gather has done well. I worked in mental health back in the day and recall a few boys whom I think now their presenting symptoms everything from acting out to anxiety to anorexia had a lot to do with being proto gay. Being unable, owing to their developmental, cognitive level, to put into words or reach an awareness of whats going on. You can´t ethically impose the notion of an adult sexual orientation upon a prepubescent child or even an adolescent for the simple reason that you´re dealing with human beings who are not yet fully formed.
How then, to help these young people? As another poster on here points out she was relentlesly bullied despite being straight. Gender non conforming children won´t necessarily grow up to be lesbian or gay. So how best do we support children and adolescents who get marked out by their peers, isolated from the ´in´ group?
Thankyou for writing. Really ejoyed reading your story it resonated in some ways and was ultimately uplifting. You pulled back from the brink well done.
In some ways it was easier growing up in the 80´s plenty of straight (and gay) flamboyant pop stars rocking eye make up, nail varnish expreSsive clothes and so on. It was kind of easier during adolescence than it was childhood...the whole new romantic / synth bands / goth subcultures had emerged by the time I turned 13 or 14. Thing was in those days no one ever suggested a boy wearing eyeliner had ´a gender that doesn´t align with the one assigned at birth´.
Thank you for your kind words, I do appreciate it.😊 How do we help our youth?
That is a great question. I believe it's a combination of several factors. First of all, recognizing the issue, then creating safe spaces that foster their talents, promoting acceptance, fostering empathy among peers, encouraging strong, healthy role models, and above all giving them more than the idea that they are or have a problem. When in fact it's the other way around.
In a lot of ways, the 80's was absolutely horrible for LGB people. But I do agree exactly with what you're saying from Boy George, to Prince, to Annie Lennox they were all gender non-conforming and yes we no one would suggest that their gender didn't align with what was assign at birth not because we didnt have the words as some of the woke might suggest but because we understood it as expression.
thanks for sharing!
You are most welcome